First off this journal is for me to print out for my new baby !!!
Second of let me say if you can't say something nice to support someone having a a baby a blessing don't say anything at all. Before I tell you what was said I feel the need to defend myself. When I first started having a family I was very young. I did depend on my family for alot of things but since I had Isabella I have grown up alot I learned to stand up for myself and my beliefs and don't depend on my family like I use to. Yes they do baby sit but it not so I can go out with my friends and party and get drunk like some moms do. When They do baby sit if for what i consider good reason's like When Zack was in the hospital or Darin was in the hospital. I see nothing wrong with Family helping out when you have a sick family member. and we do go out from time to time but there few and far between usually our anniversary and Valentine day so that is 2 times a year and it always preplanned weeks in advance. As far as the older two go they do spend some weekend with there Grandmother but for one reason and one reason only I am called and requested to send the boys cause she misses them and wants to spend time with them. If I don't send them I get upset calls about why I hadn't sent them, but it give and take I do for my grandmother as well we go to the store for her and such when we can and I love my grandma and I very well aware she won't be with us forever when she was in the hospital last time I went up and saw her quite a few times. and when she is gone something I don't want to think about I will be sad and not cause I no longer have a baby sister but because as much as we but heads and don't see eye to eye but I do love her she and I were very close as I grew up my grandfather died when I was 5 so we had each other. and with that said I do have 4 wonderful children and a 5th on the way and I am more than thrilled about this baby and I know this baby will be loved and handled yes in today world 5 kids is a large family but this is what we want and we i say i mean we something my husband and I want together I didn't leave for the store and come back pregnant this is something that has taken both of us to do I didn't do this on my own as he didn't do this on my own one of so over the other should never be pitted or felt sorry for. Please don't anyone ever feel that say for either of us cause we very happy with the family god has given us. Now withall this said friends, family, loved ones ..... Remember just cause we have freedom of speech does not mean we have the right to say something mean and hurtful just because you don't agree with someone life style as long as everyone is happy and healthy it's not your place to say something and if you have the need to say something at least don't hide behind a fake email address. I have a profile on AOL with my name and how happily married I am to my husband and that we have 4 children with a link to my journal for my new baby. well in this journal you can leave comments and someone left an awful comment and didn't have the guts to tell me who you are that just said something not so nice and passing judgment as if they know exactly how my life is now and they don't !!
here what they said :(
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Comment from: osei1234
"I can't believe you are having another baby. Just when exactly do you plan to stop? How are you going to take care of all of them without help from your grandmother? You know you lean on her too much already and she will not be around forever. I am very dissappointed in you! Shame on you for bringing another child into your already too-large family. Poor Darin....
I'm sorry but I HAD to get that off of my chest."
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#7 Comment from scrapinlover
4/2/07 5:55 AM | Permalink
Words cannot even explain how retarded this person is! They must have a boring life that they decided to come to your blog and talk nonsense! they know nothing about you and your life... Just ridiculous! trully sorry you had to deal with some ignorance#6 Comment from mom2bof4sweeties
3/18/07 9:29 PM | Permalink
What an idiot! Im sorry you had to hear such awful things. Why do some people find it necessary to share their hateful thoughts over things that have no concern to them?? I just dont get it. Having a large family isnt what most people choose to do, thats THEIR choice. No one says mean things to them. It could just as easily be flipped around on them about how selfish and self absorbed THEY are for not wanting to share thier life with GODS MIRACLES.
Some people choose to have THINGS, others choose to have CHILDREN. In the grand scheme of things, which do you think will give the greatest amount of pleasure?? Money cant buy happiness!!
Keep your head high, and dont let the fools get you down. You are blessed to have your kids and they are blessed to have you!!
Marcie---Mother of 4!!! :-)#5 Comment from hannahaghra
3/13/07 11:23 AM | Permalink
Wow Danielle, I can see why you've made your journal private...The nerve of some people. Sure, you have a lot of kids by some peoples standards, but so what? And who are they to jump on you for your personal choice? And as for having help, doesn't every expert out there say that we as moms NEED to be asking for help sometimes? Of course! There is nothing whatsoever wrong with having family help you from time to time. I know my parents get great joy out of having Hannah to themselves for awhile and wish we'd go out more often so they could!
Try not to let the witch get you down, there are WAAAAY more people that support you than there are of her kind!#4 Comment from kryzcrewof4
3/12/07 9:59 PM | Permalink
wow how RUDE!!!!
I agree with you, it shouldn't matter how many kids a couple has.
This person has not walked in your shoes and sees how you raise a family, so they have no room to judge anyone.
Your an awesome mother, that was blessed to have wonderful children and a caring and loving bond with them.#3 Comment from temperedvixenxx
3/12/07 12:06 AM | Permalink
Dani,
I read that comment last week and was astounded by the audacity of whomever it was. I am so sorr that this person felt the need to e so rude and ugly. I have 7 children and can totally relate to how it made ou feel. Just remember this: YOU are a wonderful mother and you love those kids. THATS what matters. It matters not what one small person wrote. Just delete the comment from your journal and ban the IP.#2 Comment from jaxjag264
3/10/07 3:36 PM | Permalink
WoW! This world will never be short of ignorant trolls, will it?! I am so sorry some person felt the need to sink so low and criticize you for your choices. It's no ones business how you raise your children or just how many you have. I know your children are a blessing as you and your husband are the same to them. One more child added into the mix should be nothing but pure JOY and I'm so thrilled for all of you that there is going to be just that much more love going around for ALL!
As far as your grandmother is concerned...I think what you do by taking the kids to see her, is WONDEFUL! Yes, our elderly won't be here forever, so what better joy and love can you offer her than bringing her grandchildren to see her on a regular basis! That is awesome and shows what a caring, thoughtful mother you are!
Don't let the trolls get you down. This should be a happy time for you and your family. I'm glad to see you stand up for yourself and them in this post. Bravo!
~BellaMoone (From the October babies email loop)
